Here we are at another #FundMeFriday and I am going to ask that annoying question that I ask you weekly, did you fund your account today? If you did, fantastic. For those of you who have not, make that deposit now or make that transfer otherwise, in years to come, you will be making telephone calls to borrow money. Even if all you have is $10, make the deposit. Everything will eventually add up to security. There is no amount that is ever too small to deposit into your savings.
As for today’s blog post, I want to talk about the marginal difference between helping someone and enabling that person. I say marginal because most people do not understand that there is a difference.
In short, helping is when you are doing something for someone who cannot do it for themselves. In other words, the help can be for a person who cannot do something or for a person who is temporarily unable to help themselves. These helpful situations are meant to ease the load on people who have been sidelined either temporarily or possibly permanently. Helping these people can sometimes mean the difference of their actual survival.
The fine line comes in with enabling a person. At first it is perceived as help but quickly the frustration will begin to build when you realize that the person only comes to you to clear their path whether in the form of providing housing, providing transportation or providing money on a continuous basis. Areas that they are more than capable of doing for themselves but refuse to or have simply just become accustomed to having people do these things for them. You know you are enabling when the person continuously makes you feel bad if you try to stop the behavior or you refuse to help all together. Another sign that you are enabling a person is if you are the one doing all the work and they not only try to take the glory, they try to blame you for anything that is not going right for them.
Helping someone can bring you satisfaction as well as very needed assistance to the one you are helping but enabling can slowly destroy your life. The person you are enabling will take everything from you, draining you mentally, emotionally and physically. This is the marginal difference you need to be aware of so that you will know for sure if you are helping someone or enabling that person. Do not allow anyone to destroy you because they are hell bent on destroying themselves.
A great book to enjoy along with this blog is a book called Toxic People. I have recommended this book in the past but it is also fitting for today. If you have not already enjoyed this book, try to borrow a copy at your local library or from a friend. If neither option is available, here is a link to get your own copy from Amazon >>> https://amzn.to/2SKAyRB
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